Interior Redesign: Managing Competition

To more or lesser degrees, who isn't tempted from time to time to compare themselves against other people. The happiest people in life are those that refuse to compete against others.

Two days ago I watched an episode of Dr. Phil. Two of his guests were a pair of twins, somewhere in their late twenties or thirties. Both were quite beautiful physically and well spoken.

But all of their lives they had been competing against each other. Competing over beauty, athletics, weight, boyfriends, work, education and on and on. One twin in particular just thrived on beating her sister, spoke arrogantly and didn't seem to have a clue how she was being viewed by Dr. Phil or the audience.

How utterly sad.

The other twin wanted to end the competition but was at a loss as to how to get out of it. She had deliberately chosen not to ever have children because she did not want to compete with her sister over whose children were the cutest, smartest, etc.

I wanted to hug the second one and slap the first one.

Your success should be measured against your personal growth, your willingness to do your best and your own unique skills and goals. It should never be measured against another person, whether your twin or a total stranger.