Dispelling Destructive Beliefs

BELIEF #1
You don't have the ability to control how you feel about something or someone. Life is filled with external forces that happen and you are merely a victim of these circumstances. So when something goes wrong, you have a right to shut down and quit.

BELIEF #2
You can't help your behaviour because it is controlled by the child in you, the child of your past. It is not really you who made that decision, but it is the little girl in you or the little boy in you who made the decision, and you are at a loss as to how to control yourself.

I know a 64 year old man who never accepts responsibility for his own actions and decisions. He lives his life going to therapy where his counselor feeds and fosters his belief that he is controlled by the "little boy" inside him who is compulsive, hurt and angry.

Consequently, when he makes a poor decision (which seems to happen quite frequently), it's never his fault. It's the fault of the "little boy". God forbid the "old man" should ever take responsibility for himself.

One cannot go through life blaming other people, most certainly the young child we used to be a long time ago. We must accept responsibility for who we are and the choices we make as adults.

As Dr. Phil says so often, "You can't change the things about yourself you're not willing to own."

As an interior redesigner, you must take responsibility for your decisions and choices. To do anything less is to be unprofessional. You do have the ability to control how you react to what life brings you, even if you don't have the ability to control what happens.

Never give up.
Accept yourself as an adult.
Take responsibility for your actions and words.